Poppin' Molly

HBO's series Insecure is one of my favorite shows. It's one that I have gone back and binged from the beginning multiple times. We are a few episodes into season four and I don't know how y'all are feeling but my heart is tugged on every single week. It's dealing with various topics but the one that's hitting me the most is the intricacies of friendship. I get chills every week being reminded of some of my own thoughts that I've been having lately in life. It's not exactly the same but there are many similarities. It's so familiar seeing them deal with the changes that are happening and watching them handle it differently. I am loving this season and excitedly wait each Sunday night for the next episode. There are so many thoughts that I decided to just write a blog post...

So let's talk about Molly. 

I've had my issues with her in prior seasons. While the two characters are genuinely friends, I feel like Molly is the one who seemed to always have her stuff together and Issa, although in a steady relationship, was kind of the friend that was all over the place. I mean she had a job as well, but both her job and her relationship had areas that made her frustrated. Through it all though, Molly was her ride or die. Question is, how much is too much? A lot of times Molly does things to look out for her friend but it's just too much.

I feel like Molly was always there when Issa needed her, but sometimes her ability to go hard for her friend was not appropriate. There's a lot of "Who I gotta fight? Oh, let me block this without even telling you so you won't have to deal with this. Oh you got beef with him? Okay then I do too". But sometimes it got in the way of Issa being able to handle things on her own. How much was too much interference? Like I get it, but sometimes I be like chill!

Now these past few episodes make me feel like Molly is okay with Issa as long as Issa's not doing better than her. Or, if Issa is doing okay, it's because Molly helped in some way. Not that she could do it on her own. Do you have friendships that feel like that? Molly sees her as a creative but she always screws up so she's probably going to do it again and Molly's going to have to be there for her and save her. She doesn't believe in her friend. She's not showing true support and it makes me wonder why they're still friends. And the truth of the matter is, Molly you don't have it together yourself sweetie?

Have you every had thoughts about a friendship where others may be starting to see the tension but the involved parties have yet to have a real conversation? Is it difficult to have those real conversations with your "ride-or-die"? Is it because of what you will have to face? Maybe you don't want to share truths with the other person. Maybe you're afraid to hear the truth about yourself. Maybe it will result in a severing of the friendship and you're not ready to let go. Maybe you just long for things to go back to how it used to be.

When expectations change, when communication depletes, when it looks okay from the outside but there's something eating away that's making you feel like you no longer bang with your Molly or your Issa, what the heck do you do?

I guess we'll find out at the end of the season.