That's So Handy

I was listening to someone famous, who I really enjoy listening to. It's cool how much they talk about God. It's all the time, like All Thee Time...but they curse a whole lot and other stuff too. At first I was like, that's conflicting, but someone else replied and said something like, "but everyone's process isn't always fast, like they might just be beginning, and they know they believe, but everything didn't change all at once". And I was like, True! That was a really good point, and it helped me once again on my everlasting journey to loving solely like Jesus and being less prejudice against people who aren't "churched" like me. But this post isn't really about that. It's more about the fact that even if, by chance, this famous person was being "conflicting", was it really wrong  for him to talk about God? I mean, isn't that what we want; for people all over the world, all kinds of lifestyles to hear about who ...

By Crystal Handy Have you ever felt like you didn't belong? No matter the credentials you've obtained, nothing prepared you for the social skills you would need to feel like your functioning well in this fast-paced world. Does it seem like everyone around you has figured it out and they're moving full-force in their purpose, but you're stuck still trying to figure it out? Well, here's something that I've come up with to help myself. Maybe it will be a start to helping you as well.  1. Don't Compare Yourself to Anyone:  Not even to yourself - Your old self is not you NOW. What you used to do may not be what you can do now. It's okay. Focus on who you are presently . You don't need that extra stress of figuring out if you're as good as your younger self, or as good as anyone else. Listen, other people have what they have; they are who they are; their background is their background. But what you have to offer is needed  and nobody els...

I was watching some movie on Netflix one day and I heard a quote that hit me enough that I had to pause the movie and write this blog entry. Let me set the scene up for you:  So this guy is going through some things with his marriage, his job, just life in general. Everything he's doing to try to cope isn't working, in fact it seems to keep getting worse and he doesn't want to bear it any longer. Next he's drunk and walking to a bridge with the expectation to jump. Then a car stops and an older man tells him about how he was in the exact same spot 1 year ago. spoke these words to a man after talking him out of jumping off a bridge in the same spot that the elder man stood in 1 year ago with the same intentions. He told his story and then stated...  "The energy you put into dying, you put that into living." WOW! I thought about what this meant. It really does take energy to take your life; to decide how it's going to happen, to move past the fear,...

3,216-   I see their pictures. I know what they’re eating, how they're feeling, what they're thinking, who/what they like and don't like, if they have kids; a family; are they in a relationship. I can see it all – I know them! Or do I really? 3216...this is the number of Facebook friends I have. I know so much about all different kinds of people, but I look sometimes and think " I don't know you!" When I compare the  number of friends and followers I have on social media with the people I have deep relationships with, the gap is pretty significant. Don’t get me wrong.   Social networks are awesome because you get to keep up with all different kinds of people’s lives. But do you ever feel like, even with all the people that follow you on social media, you can still count the number of true friends you have on one hand? You name it...I used it back in the day! I loved connecting and feeling close to all kinds of people. Now, I realize how overwhe...

It's the 31 st day of the year and also the 123 rd day that I have been 31 years. I often find myself thinking about how I will be 40 soon and I do NOT want to look back and see that I haven’t made any growth. I’m sure you feel the same way; that you want to take advantage of opportunities to improve your quality of life and you want to make sure you are enjoying a purposeful life and not just making it through. So I'm sure you’ve taken the first step; you’ve written your goals/resolutions. BOOM ! Then you realize that change doesn’t happen overnight…you actually have to do some work to prepare for the change. It would be awesome if you could just wish change and it happens without having to make adjustments to your habits. Sometimes complacency comes knocking on your door saying You don’t have to do anything right now. It’ll happen! Then years have gone past before you realize NOTHING CHANGED... That’s how I feel when I think about my goals sometimes, and I p...

Hey Blackie! Here's your victory Does desegregation make you happy? Finally a change has come. But it's gonna come with a price. We gon make sure you Blackies think twice. Imagine... You can come here Well, because we have to let you. But Our teachers don't have to teach You The buses don't have to bus You, You can pay for a taxi or You can walk your Black legs. And your nappy Black-hair covered nappy Black head Will see just how good my aim is with these apples so red Blood shed  We'll be waiting for you Every single day To antagonize you, taunt you,  Tease, laugh, and haunt you. You'll get hit on, you'll get spit on Listen, We don't want you here But they said we had to let you in. I see you with your strong arms carrying those torn books I see your straight face as if you are ignoring our ignorance I see your perseverance to get your education. I see your resili...

  Women Power! We fight for a voice, a vote, a chance to work and receive equal pay, a chance to make the decisions. Our sole purpose for existence is no longer just to stay home and make babies and be housewives. Then comes the controversy. There's been discussion for years about what it means for wives to submit to their husband. Ephesians 5:23-33 22  Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands  as you do to the Lord.   23  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,  his body, of which he is the Savior. Oh My Gosh! I’ve heard and read these Bible verses before, but they come to my mind every now and then as a reminder to get myself together. It hits me hard. I am realizing more and more that it is not just me, my life, my wants, needs and desires.  I have a whole individual that I became one with.   I may have a thought, he may have another thought. I may want something, he may want somethin...