Dying to Live

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I was watching some movie on Netflix one day and I heard a quote that hit me enough that I had to pause the movie and write this blog entry. Let me set the scene up for you:

 So this guy is going through some things with his marriage, his job, just life in general. Everything he's doing to try to cope isn't working, in fact it seems to keep getting worse and he doesn't want to bear it any longer. Next he's drunk and walking to a bridge with the expectation to jump. Then a car stops and an older man tells him about how he was in the exact same spot 1 year ago. spoke these words to a man after talking him out of jumping off a bridge in the same spot that the elder man stood in 1 year ago with the same intentions. He told his story and then stated... 

"The energy you put into dying, you put that into living."

WOW! I thought about what this meant. It really does take energy to take your life; to decide how it's going to happen, to move past the fear, past worries about the consequences, going back and forth in your mind about the decision - moving past all this and deciding to do it - to go through with it.

Well, it also takes a lot of energy to decide NOT to do it; to move past the hurt, the anger, the fear, the disappointment, the depression, whatever it is, and take steps to live through it, to live with it, to LIVE!

Both are a choice. And even though choosing to live can be extremely difficult, hopefully in those hard moments you muster up some deep hidden conviction saying that you do have something to live for. Even if it's just the fact that you trust God enough to carry you to your purpose when you can't see the reason yourself.

I know words don't help much because you probably feel like nobody else can truly understanding what you're going through unless they're in your shoes. But I can still sympathize and empathize, especially since I've tried to commit suicide myself. But I'm here to testify that it doesn't have to go that way. And if you're alive, you can choose to LIVE!





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