Perfect verse...but your beat aint tight?

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Have you ever felt defeated like nobody wants you to be great? Are people forever overlooking your value? Are your gifts and talent going unrecognized and unused?

 You've probably tried to vent to others about these feelings only to receive answers about self evaluation, and keep honing your craft because your time will come...stay faithful...blah blah blah

Well...have you ever actually listened to this advice, accepting that you're going around in circles and nothing has changed?

Maybe you haven't, but I'm starting to, and it's eye-opening. I know, I know, you just want someone to validate your feelings and encourage you that your haters can't hold you back. You're the best. But maybe you need someone to tell you that no one sees you because you're complacent and too lazy to kick your gift up to the next level. 

It could just be that the right thing hasn't come along so that you will hear and not be offended. Maybe the next time it won't be the mundane voice of those who you've constantly tried to vent to with no help. Hopefully before you've left this world with unmet potential, something will grab your attention, shake you up, and let your ego know that YES YOU DO HAVE A LOT TO OFFER, but so does a lot of other people - stop complaining and do what you have to do to tap into your greatness. . 

I don't want to be another one of those voices making you feel like a failure. Trust me, I get it. That's why I want to share a story with you to encourage you that you're going to make it:

One of my favorite things to eat is Chinese food. When my husband and I order it, the bag comes with 2 fortune cookies. Everyone knows that "fair share" would mean that he gets one and I get the other. But of course, I end up eating both of them most of the time. But it's only because there are plenty of times when I leave it for him, and he never gets around to eating it. For example, we had Chinese about a week ago and his fortune cookie was still sitting on the kitchen table as of this morning...until I ate it. I didn't even eat it because I necessarily wanted it. I just ate it because it was there. I mean, they gave it to us to be eaten. Who am I to let a fortune cookie go to waste?

Anyway, I ate the cookie and read the fortune inside. I don't live for fortune cookie fortunes, but sometimes there are good messages. Like this one:




Now, I don't know what they were shooting for exactly with this statement, but this is what I decided to take from it. 

I have got to stop beating myself up because I'm not doing everything I want to do. I have got to stop beating myself up because I am only getting some things done but I might not be the best at it. I have got to stop beating myself up because it seems like everyone else has figure it out and I feel like I'm failing at life.

One thing my husband constantly says is "my only goal is to be better today than I was yesterday!"

It 

Takes

Baby

Steps

You won't wake up great at everything tomorrow. Just keep growing and be the best you can be. 

And another part of being better is realizing you can't do everything. And you shouldn't have to. God gave many gifts, and He didn't make many so that you would have to take all of them on yourself. So after evaluation of your priorities, you may find that some things may fall off. Some things may have to be slowed down in order for you to take time to find your rhythm. You can't be on 16th notes all the time when life is full of quarter notes, three-quarters and rests. Life is not a race. Stop beating yourself up and start beating the drum of life on beat. Start fine-tuning your gifts/craft. Find your rhythm.  

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