Free Preview
Sometimes movie channels will have a free preview to let you watch shows/movies for a week or so for free. I guess the idea is that what they show is so good that it will make you prescribe to the channel. Well, for people like me and my family, we still will not pay the extra money for the channels. We'll just keep waiting and catch the free previews because we know sooner or later they are going to have one.
Maybe you already know where I'm going with this. I've heard it so many times before. Guys will say things like, "you have to have sex with her before marriage so you can know what you're getting into. I don't want any surprises after we married cuz then it's too late" or "I gotta know how good it is before we get married". There are numerous versions of this thinking but it's all the same thing....A TRICK (no pun intended).
Society has our minds all messed up; men AND women. No one talks about the beauty of waiting to give yourself away to your husband and only to your husband. No one talks about how your private part is special and shouldn't be available to just anyone. I mean they may say it when you're a child, but round about those teenage years, there's no re-enforcement. People say things like "you're young and you have to have sex now before you dry up", "you have to know what you want so you have to start now", or "if you don't have sex with him, someone else will". THEN LET HIM! because he's not worth you. Society has reduced the woman to nothing but a body, to the negation of our brilliant minds, love, abilities and other things we have to offer. All we are good for is sex, and sex makes the world go round. Well I would like to offer another way of thinking.
You are so much more than your body, and your body is precious and priceless. You are a queen and no matter what your past, you deserve the best. Contrary to what you may think, just because you're sleeping with him, doesn't mean he's going to make you his girlfriend/wife, and just because you're his girlfriend doesn't mean you have to sleep with him. Sex is pretty much everywhere and it'll make you think everyone is doing it. But we're not. Sex has been a ridiculously huge part of my life and I'm only 25. But I am writing this as an awakened, aware, abstinent woman, and as difficult as it gets, I remember that I don't have to give in, and neither do you. Especially to some random yo that isn't even committed to you and is probably getting it from other places as well. The guilt and consequences of pre-marital sex are way too risky than that small feeling that will be gone in a few minutes. And for those of you that do not want the ties of marriage but still have feelings, there's so much more to do with your time. Find a hobby. Sex is not the only past-time when you're bored. We have just glamorized it so much and sensualized (not sure if that's a word) everything that all we know is how to make our bodies feel good. But there's so much more to life than sex. You don't have to do it. You don't have to. Respect yourself. Because I don't care how much information they give you on STDs, STIs or whatever you want to call it, and I don't care how much birth control you take, or condoms you use. None of it is 100% safe and none of it will protect you against emotional damage. So the next time you think you have to dress a certain way or have sex to get the attention of a man, think about what I've said and think about raising your standards as to what you are looking for in a man. I Love You and God Bless!!
Maybe you already know where I'm going with this. I've heard it so many times before. Guys will say things like, "you have to have sex with her before marriage so you can know what you're getting into. I don't want any surprises after we married cuz then it's too late" or "I gotta know how good it is before we get married". There are numerous versions of this thinking but it's all the same thing....A TRICK (no pun intended).
Society has our minds all messed up; men AND women. No one talks about the beauty of waiting to give yourself away to your husband and only to your husband. No one talks about how your private part is special and shouldn't be available to just anyone. I mean they may say it when you're a child, but round about those teenage years, there's no re-enforcement. People say things like "you're young and you have to have sex now before you dry up", "you have to know what you want so you have to start now", or "if you don't have sex with him, someone else will". THEN LET HIM! because he's not worth you. Society has reduced the woman to nothing but a body, to the negation of our brilliant minds, love, abilities and other things we have to offer. All we are good for is sex, and sex makes the world go round. Well I would like to offer another way of thinking.
You are so much more than your body, and your body is precious and priceless. You are a queen and no matter what your past, you deserve the best. Contrary to what you may think, just because you're sleeping with him, doesn't mean he's going to make you his girlfriend/wife, and just because you're his girlfriend doesn't mean you have to sleep with him. Sex is pretty much everywhere and it'll make you think everyone is doing it. But we're not. Sex has been a ridiculously huge part of my life and I'm only 25. But I am writing this as an awakened, aware, abstinent woman, and as difficult as it gets, I remember that I don't have to give in, and neither do you. Especially to some random yo that isn't even committed to you and is probably getting it from other places as well. The guilt and consequences of pre-marital sex are way too risky than that small feeling that will be gone in a few minutes. And for those of you that do not want the ties of marriage but still have feelings, there's so much more to do with your time. Find a hobby. Sex is not the only past-time when you're bored. We have just glamorized it so much and sensualized (not sure if that's a word) everything that all we know is how to make our bodies feel good. But there's so much more to life than sex. You don't have to do it. You don't have to. Respect yourself. Because I don't care how much information they give you on STDs, STIs or whatever you want to call it, and I don't care how much birth control you take, or condoms you use. None of it is 100% safe and none of it will protect you against emotional damage. So the next time you think you have to dress a certain way or have sex to get the attention of a man, think about what I've said and think about raising your standards as to what you are looking for in a man. I Love You and God Bless!!
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